I have a very bad reputation. I cannot see tensed people. And I cannot remain tensed for long time. Every time I see any tensed people I start giving "lecture" to him/her. No matter what is the relation with them. I cant stop me giving some advice to them. Slowly I am feeling people are starting avoiding me. Who want to listen unnecessary lecture specially when they are down?
I came up with a brilliant idea. What about writing something about it? I know I am not the only person who think positively in life or it is also not true that I never get depressed. But it is true that in my short life I faced many problem, doesn't matter how small is it I came out fully or partially with some funny and simple but effective ideas. Now I have no idea what I am going to write, because I forgot many of the situations in my life and strategy to be happy depends on the particular situation. But lets write it. No matter how bad it would be.
First of all I am not going to write how to be successful. I am going to right how to be happy by thinking positively.
First of all I am not going to write how to be successful. I am going to right how to be happy by thinking positively.
I know exactly when I start thinking positively in life and I know exactly when I felt that I can be happy for ever. I know exactly when my life took the most important turn from a successful person to a happy and confident person.
It was a night when one of my most important result was to come out. The medical entrance test. I dreamed to be a doctor from my childhood. I tried it once when I was a student of XII class. But I failed. I remember I could not sleep the whole night. I was thinking and thinking and thinking. I was actually crying. But somehow I got up in the morning, started studying again and determined to take the exam again and clear. The night I am going to say is the result day of the second attempt. Those days internet was not much available. So I had to go to my district town. I was waiting in so much anxiety. With me I had another friend who was also same state like me. We both spent one year only to prepare for this entrance test. So already we are one year behind in career compared to our own batch met. Finally we went to a internet café and input our roll numbers. And the result was negative. Both of us failed.
Magic happened in this moment. My friend asked how can you tell to your parents about the result? Suddenly I felt the same question how can I inform this to my parents? I am the only hope they have. This is my last chance to fulfill my dream. My whole life will change after this.
But practically what happened is opposite. I went to a public telephone booth (Oh yes, I didn't have a cell phone those days), dialed out house no.
My dad's voice. "What happened?".
A heavenly calm voice of me "I didn't get it. I am coming home".
We both were surprised. How can I take this so easily? I don't know how it happened. I could not believe was it my voice.
I could not return to my home that night. The last bus to our city already left. We stayed in one of our friends room. We were talking whole night.
He asked "How can you talk to your house so easily".
Now I thought how is it possible. I replied " See first of all this is just an another exam of life. Secondly, previously the whole world was for us was leading to only one path. Success for us was just one definition. That is to be a doctor. But now the whole world is open for us. We can be whatever we want to. We can go anywhere and it will be our journey. No matter where we reach it will be our destination and it will be a success."
My way of life changed from that day. I remember a line from Rabindranath Tagore. "I went to the tree in the morning. Many beautiful flowers were there under the tree which fall down during the whole night. I was busy with selecting the best one and I missed the beauty of many flowers." I know it is not the exact translation what the line said. But the core idea of this line is many times we get pain just because we remain busy to find the best one. And meanwhile we overlook the beauty of the things as a hole.
For me the best way of enjoying life is to enjoy everything. It is an exercise to be able to enjoy small things. I have friends who asked me when I took to a mountain or sea "what is there to see?". Yes some people are there who cannot see even a whole mountain or see in front of them. I feel hard time to them how to teach them how to feel. I don't know which nerve controls our feelings. If I could I would tune that nerve.
Do not always judge things as good or bad. Take it as a description. Look at the fine detail of it. You can add more color to your life.
Most often we mix our happiness with our professional success. Of course professional success is one of the most vital point to stand strongly. But it is not the only thing which can give us pleasure. It is the part of life and the whole life contain much more.
One important thing to judge your self is how you behave in a difficult situation. I saw many people claim that they are cool. But I saw them getting crazy in a tough situation. Of course it is natural thing. But the real test to be cool is how you behave when nothing is going to your plan.
I told it is an exercise how you can be stable in a difficult situation.
There are two aspect of it. One is the practical way to do it. For example you have exam ahead. So the practical way is study hard. Plan for it. Prepare for it.
The second aspect is the mental. I am more interested to talk about it. Most of the people are afraid of failing or getting less marks. And they stop studying and finally they ruin the opportunity they had. But if people think positively they can see that their position is not that worse what they are thinking. At least the remaining time will help them for preparing. Thermodynamics says the more the temperature of the machine the less is the work done. The same way the more a person get tensed the less is the work done. I had a practical experience for this. I want to tell you how I did it. May be it will help others.
When I was giving the part I exam of my college (According to our that time regulations we had to write a exam at the end of two years of study in college. It was called Part I), I felt that I didn't study much. Only 3 months was remaining to prepare. That time I had two choice. Either give up or took it a challenge. I told myself "why don't I take the challenge? I have option not to write the exam up to last moment. So I started reading books. I decided if I think about the whole syllabus then I will be scared. Literally the syllabus was very vast. I divided the whole syllabus in 30 fragment. Everyday in the morning when I used to get up I looked only one fragment which I had to complete that day, Nothing more. I didn't change the get up time from bed. usually I am a late riser. Still I didn't change the habit purposefully. So that some thinking don't come to my mind that I am doing something special. First day it was tough. But at the end of the day I was happy. I could finish that day's segment. Slowly second third and many more days passed. Suddenly I noticed I already covered the half of it. And surprisingly the more day passed my concentration increased and I could finish it more easily and some time I could cover 2 days study in 1 day. I was amazed with the change of my efficiency. Believe me I am the most ordinary student. Still it happened to my life. And finally I finished the whole syllabus before 2 weeks of my target.
This is how we can solve a problem by cutting it down in small fragments. Any problem doesn't matter how complicated it looks we can solve by simple equation. Those who study mathematics knows this, any complex equation finally we solve by some simple basic solution.
The second aspect of it as I told I am more interested to say, is the mental game here. I joy I got during those three months was enormous. Don't think that I had no other problem that time. My father was sick that time. And I had to give lots of time for him. Also when your father is sick you feel it.
But beside all of I was very happy, I was very satisfied. I was not happy because I shall get good marks in the exam. I was satisfied because I did my best what I can do. After finishing my job with my highest efficiency and honestly I was literally careless about my result. I was feeling result will not effect my life any more. I am not much religious. But I was remembering a line from Gita. "Do your work, don't think about result". And I was feeling it in my heart.
By the way, you may be curious what was my result in the exam. Its quite predictable. It was medium. But today I didn't came to write about how to be successful, I am writing about "How to be happy". And for me happiness is the most important thing in life. Happiness comes when you give your 100%. Not when you get the result.
The success story where there is full of failure attracts me very much. Once I read a interview of former Indian Cricket caption Sourav Gangooly. He was among the most successful caption for India. But he have many tough time in life. The interview I am talking about the period when he just returned to the team after he was rejected from the team for long 1 year.
The reporter asked "what did you learned during last one year? Was you sad?"
He replied "I was happier than ever. I learned there is a big life other than Cricket".
It impressed me very much. I learned from failure that there is a bigger life, and in life there are many options. Seeing through every elements of life is very important aspect to enjoy life at its best.
Getting rid of fear is very important to live a happy life. Happiness is exactly opposite of fear. I have several theories of my own invention to get relief from the fear. In my child hood I used to fear darkness. I used to stay in a hostel in schooldays. In the back of a building we had our toilets. Even though the place had light but still many darkness was there. Moreover there was a rumor that "A Christian ghost stay there". I hard about Ghost. But I don't know why this time it was particular a Christian Ghost. One day I was fade up with my fear and did one experiment. I wanted to know what is there behind the darkness. I went to the most dark place and started staring at it. My legs were shaking. My heartbeat was faster. I was so much scared. But I hold the ground. I could stay up to only one minute. I came back that day. Next day I went again. I could increase the timing, may be two minute. But after one week I totally come out of the fear from darkness. I felt there is no Christian Ghost. And the only thing behind the darkness was a small tree and a wall. Now I don't fear the darkness.
Magic happened in this moment. My friend asked how can you tell to your parents about the result? Suddenly I felt the same question how can I inform this to my parents? I am the only hope they have. This is my last chance to fulfill my dream. My whole life will change after this.
But practically what happened is opposite. I went to a public telephone booth (Oh yes, I didn't have a cell phone those days), dialed out house no.
My dad's voice. "What happened?".
A heavenly calm voice of me "I didn't get it. I am coming home".
We both were surprised. How can I take this so easily? I don't know how it happened. I could not believe was it my voice.
I could not return to my home that night. The last bus to our city already left. We stayed in one of our friends room. We were talking whole night.
He asked "How can you talk to your house so easily".
Now I thought how is it possible. I replied " See first of all this is just an another exam of life. Secondly, previously the whole world was for us was leading to only one path. Success for us was just one definition. That is to be a doctor. But now the whole world is open for us. We can be whatever we want to. We can go anywhere and it will be our journey. No matter where we reach it will be our destination and it will be a success."
My way of life changed from that day. I remember a line from Rabindranath Tagore. "I went to the tree in the morning. Many beautiful flowers were there under the tree which fall down during the whole night. I was busy with selecting the best one and I missed the beauty of many flowers." I know it is not the exact translation what the line said. But the core idea of this line is many times we get pain just because we remain busy to find the best one. And meanwhile we overlook the beauty of the things as a hole.
For me the best way of enjoying life is to enjoy everything. It is an exercise to be able to enjoy small things. I have friends who asked me when I took to a mountain or sea "what is there to see?". Yes some people are there who cannot see even a whole mountain or see in front of them. I feel hard time to them how to teach them how to feel. I don't know which nerve controls our feelings. If I could I would tune that nerve.
Do not always judge things as good or bad. Take it as a description. Look at the fine detail of it. You can add more color to your life.
Most often we mix our happiness with our professional success. Of course professional success is one of the most vital point to stand strongly. But it is not the only thing which can give us pleasure. It is the part of life and the whole life contain much more.
One important thing to judge your self is how you behave in a difficult situation. I saw many people claim that they are cool. But I saw them getting crazy in a tough situation. Of course it is natural thing. But the real test to be cool is how you behave when nothing is going to your plan.
I told it is an exercise how you can be stable in a difficult situation.
There are two aspect of it. One is the practical way to do it. For example you have exam ahead. So the practical way is study hard. Plan for it. Prepare for it.
The second aspect is the mental. I am more interested to talk about it. Most of the people are afraid of failing or getting less marks. And they stop studying and finally they ruin the opportunity they had. But if people think positively they can see that their position is not that worse what they are thinking. At least the remaining time will help them for preparing. Thermodynamics says the more the temperature of the machine the less is the work done. The same way the more a person get tensed the less is the work done. I had a practical experience for this. I want to tell you how I did it. May be it will help others.
When I was giving the part I exam of my college (According to our that time regulations we had to write a exam at the end of two years of study in college. It was called Part I), I felt that I didn't study much. Only 3 months was remaining to prepare. That time I had two choice. Either give up or took it a challenge. I told myself "why don't I take the challenge? I have option not to write the exam up to last moment. So I started reading books. I decided if I think about the whole syllabus then I will be scared. Literally the syllabus was very vast. I divided the whole syllabus in 30 fragment. Everyday in the morning when I used to get up I looked only one fragment which I had to complete that day, Nothing more. I didn't change the get up time from bed. usually I am a late riser. Still I didn't change the habit purposefully. So that some thinking don't come to my mind that I am doing something special. First day it was tough. But at the end of the day I was happy. I could finish that day's segment. Slowly second third and many more days passed. Suddenly I noticed I already covered the half of it. And surprisingly the more day passed my concentration increased and I could finish it more easily and some time I could cover 2 days study in 1 day. I was amazed with the change of my efficiency. Believe me I am the most ordinary student. Still it happened to my life. And finally I finished the whole syllabus before 2 weeks of my target.
This is how we can solve a problem by cutting it down in small fragments. Any problem doesn't matter how complicated it looks we can solve by simple equation. Those who study mathematics knows this, any complex equation finally we solve by some simple basic solution.
The second aspect of it as I told I am more interested to say, is the mental game here. I joy I got during those three months was enormous. Don't think that I had no other problem that time. My father was sick that time. And I had to give lots of time for him. Also when your father is sick you feel it.
But beside all of I was very happy, I was very satisfied. I was not happy because I shall get good marks in the exam. I was satisfied because I did my best what I can do. After finishing my job with my highest efficiency and honestly I was literally careless about my result. I was feeling result will not effect my life any more. I am not much religious. But I was remembering a line from Gita. "Do your work, don't think about result". And I was feeling it in my heart.
By the way, you may be curious what was my result in the exam. Its quite predictable. It was medium. But today I didn't came to write about how to be successful, I am writing about "How to be happy". And for me happiness is the most important thing in life. Happiness comes when you give your 100%. Not when you get the result.
The success story where there is full of failure attracts me very much. Once I read a interview of former Indian Cricket caption Sourav Gangooly. He was among the most successful caption for India. But he have many tough time in life. The interview I am talking about the period when he just returned to the team after he was rejected from the team for long 1 year.
The reporter asked "what did you learned during last one year? Was you sad?"
He replied "I was happier than ever. I learned there is a big life other than Cricket".
It impressed me very much. I learned from failure that there is a bigger life, and in life there are many options. Seeing through every elements of life is very important aspect to enjoy life at its best.
Getting rid of fear is very important to live a happy life. Happiness is exactly opposite of fear. I have several theories of my own invention to get relief from the fear. In my child hood I used to fear darkness. I used to stay in a hostel in schooldays. In the back of a building we had our toilets. Even though the place had light but still many darkness was there. Moreover there was a rumor that "A Christian ghost stay there". I hard about Ghost. But I don't know why this time it was particular a Christian Ghost. One day I was fade up with my fear and did one experiment. I wanted to know what is there behind the darkness. I went to the most dark place and started staring at it. My legs were shaking. My heartbeat was faster. I was so much scared. But I hold the ground. I could stay up to only one minute. I came back that day. Next day I went again. I could increase the timing, may be two minute. But after one week I totally come out of the fear from darkness. I felt there is no Christian Ghost. And the only thing behind the darkness was a small tree and a wall. Now I don't fear the darkness.
To be continued......
